• Nicole Dennis

Captain & Soldier: A Motherhood Analogy

Updated: Oct 5, 2021

We are called soldiers in Christ’s army, but imagine becoming a Captain (who trains and oversees soldiers) when you’ve barely started your training as a soldier! I have to say the way I started motherhood has felt like this. I was a soldier gone AWOL in God’s army, and then became Captain over one precious soldier. So now I’m training (maturing) and learning to be a Captain all at once. It’s been a journey of learning and healing whilst trying not to let my broken pieces cut someone else. Many a mistake has been made, and I’m sure many more will follow.

Why am I sharing this?

My heart really is to encourage those of you that are single and growing restless in your waiting. Trust Abba’s timing. Don’t rush ahead of Him. I know it’s difficult to wait in a time of ‘highlight reels’ but hold onto your hope in Christ and focus on the joys of right now. There’s so much for you to learn and grow in before marriage and motherhood. Being a wife and mother is a calling and ministry with a purpose. It’s not a way to fill your voids. So yes look ahead to these promises with excitement, but remember they carry with them such great responsibility.

...be sane and sober of mind (temperate, disciplined) and to love their husbands and their children, to be self-controlled, chaste, homemakers, good-natured (kind-hearted), adapting and subordinating themselves to their husbands, that the word of God may not be exposed to reproach (blasphemed or discredited) -Titus 2:4-5

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it - Proverbs 22:6

How whole are you? Are you seeking God to break any cycles of sin & dysfunction? Are you learning to speak and think they way God does? Are you learning to grow in prayer and understanding the Word? Can you ‘lead yourself’ so to speak before your desire to be a leader to others?

I don’t mean to come across in a negative light, but I can’t deny the weight of responsibility that comes with having souls in your care. The journey is beautiful but it isn't without difficulty.You can’t run a household *well* with bouts of depression or anxiety. You can’t pour love into your spouse & children when you’re not receiving God’s love for yourself, or how about the rejected child in you that hasn’t been dealt with? (Whole ‘nother blog right there). You can’t daydream of prayer sessions with a spouse if you can’t get in the prayer closet for yourself. You can’t teach scriptures you haven’t read for yourself. You can’t lead or nurture a family further than where you’ve been with God.

So be a soldier focused on pleasing Christ. Train yourself in godliness. Be fierce in your pursuit of freedom and wholeness in Christ. ENJOY the time with God that you have to get to know Him, and study Him. Study how He corrects you, how He speaks to and encourages you. Study the different ways He shows you His love. Let Him parent you. SERVE where you’re led to. Learn to submit yourself to His Will. Learn to submit to the Christ in others. Learn to master your emotions. Practice taking EVERY thought captive (your feelings are fuelled by your thoughts and where you allow them to take you). Practice being a godly friend. Practice being a doer of the Word. Practice being intimate and transparent before God...

Does it mean you’ll be the perfect, "ready" wife and mother when the time comes? Not necessarily. But I believe with all my heart it’ll make you a healthier one, and the journey will be that little bit easier.

From my heart to yours,

Nicole Xx

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; now that I have become a man, I am done with childish ways and have put them aside - 1 Corinthians 13:11

For physical training is of some value (useful for a little), but godliness (spiritual training) is useful and of value in everything and in every way, for it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come - 1 Timothy 4:8

Originally posted 06.08.17 @true2nicole


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